I keep attracting the same person over and over again. I keep going on dates with the same type of personality. I’m attracting narcissists all the time.” Narcissists have a radar that can pinpoint certain types of personalities.
Now, I know you may not know this, but there is an invisible sign on your back that keeps saying, “Hey, come into my life and bring me down.” It’s not your imagination. It’s not even your fault because you’re not consciously aware of what it is that you’re doing that keeps attracting these people into your life.
The truth is, that narcissists can spot vulnerability in a person. They just know these certain vibes that tell them they’ll be able to abuse you or use you down the road. So, here’s the list of things that you might want to work on so you can stop attracting the same person over and over again.
Number 1: You’re Empathetic
Number one, you’re empathetic. Now, I don’t want you to change this about yourself because it’s a beautiful gift that you have. It is what makes you human, and you’re able to connect with other people because you have those high levels of empathy. I just want you to tweak a couple things. I want you to reel it back and give it to the people who deserve it and value it and are not going to take advantage of it.
This is the number one thing that all narcissists are going to be able to smell a mile away because high levels of empathy for them mean that you’re going to overlook their behavior which you did. They know that you’re going to give them the benefit of the doubt. They know that you’re probably going to stick around when you see unhealthy behavior.
They know that you’re going to be able to see them the way you want to see them, not the way that they’re behaving. So, because you have compassion, you just have this ability that you want to understand people. That creates a little bit of an opening where they can then push boundaries. They can also manipulate the situation and take advantage of you. The vibe that you give off when you’re highly empathetic and it’s done in an unhealthy way is that you’re the fixer.
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