The Harsh Reality of No Contact
People often think that going no-contact is a decision made in a single moment, but it’s not. It’s a process built brick by brick over the years. It’s the decision to miss out on family milestones, to stay silent when others reach out, and to protect yourself from someone who only brings pain. It’s the hard reality of severing ties not just with the narcissist, but with family and shared history.
No contact means carrying the weight of emotional isolation, knowing that your experiences and pain aren’t acknowledged by the family you’ve distanced yourself from. It’s a form of grief for the life you might have had if things were different.
The Final Blow: Posthumous Betrayal
In death, narcissists may leave behind a final act of cruelty. For me, it was discovered that my father had written me out of my grandparents’ trust, intentionally denying me any inheritance. It wasn’t about the money—it was about the message: even in death, he wanted to hurt me. He even misspelled my name in the legal documents.
This act reinforced the harsh truth that some narcissists never let go of their need to control and punish. Even after they’re gone, their manipulations linger.
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Conclusion:
As brutal as the experience has been, my decision to go no-contact was undeniably validated. No matter how painful it was to cut ties with my family and my past, I now know without a doubt that it was the right choice for me and my daughter.
When a narcissist dies, it’s not the end of the pain, but it can be the beginning of a different kind of peace. It is a time to reflect on the boundaries you’ve built and to recognize that those walls, built brick by brick, were necessary to protect yourself. In the ruins left behind, there is both sadness and beauty—a testament to your resilience in the face of emotional devastation.
If you are going through something similar, I offer my sincerest condolences. Know that your story matters, and sharing it can help others find strength and understanding in their journey.
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