Thereafter, of course, even though you should not even be contemplating the possibility of keeping the narcissist from leaving you, you should also understand that you can’t do anything about it other than, as I say, chain the narcissist to the radiator in the basement.
Once the narcissist decides that they are going, they will go. It might be that the narcissist decided to end the relationship with you where your intimate partner secondary source or a non-intimate secondary source, your position of mistress has been terminated, and your friendship with the narcissist is terminated. That is unusual, and more often the narcissists might say that, but their action belies what is going on, and you’ve just been placed back on the shelf, and you’ll be hoovered off it again at some future point if you allow it to happen.
When you’re the intimate partner, the intimate partner’s primary source of the narcissist (spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, partner, cohabit, etc.), and the narcissist ends the relationship, you won’t even be told that that is happening. But whether the narcissist has done this or has decided to do this, then in such circumstances, not only should you not be trying to prevent it, but you can’t.
The simple fact is you are not in a position to control somebody who must not be controlled. Your actions will be perceived by the narcissist through that world’s lens of control as threatening that control. Your attempt to try and get the narcissist to stay will fail. You will end up fueling the narcissist; thus, the narcissist wins.
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