Narcissistic individuals are everywhere, and they want to take advantage of you. They are in the schools, the workplaces, the churches, and even among our family members and acquaintances. Some of us are in intimate relationships with a Narcissist. So, if you have already spotted a Narcissist or strongly feel that someone you know is, then this article is for you.
In today’s topic, I want to talk about a few things you should not do around a Narcissist, especially one who has already exposed themselves for the lying, manipulating, selfish abusers that they are. Because how you conduct yourself around a Narcissist will communicate to them how they should treat you. And the best outcome is for the Narcissist to want to avoid you. They may still gossip or slander you, but they will think twice before they try any of their games on you.
Also, when dealing with a Narcissist, you are dealing with a coward, and they are more afraid of you than you think. So let us now get into 6 things you should not do for a Narcissist or around them.
Number 1: Your emotions feed the Narcissist.
The first thing you should not do is cry. Narcissists do not have empathy, and you should never seek sympathy from a Narcissist because they have none to give. They feed off of negativity and the pain of others. So, when you cry around a Narcissist, it is just you feeding that sinister ego of theirs. Your tears do not move the Narcissist. It makes them feel good and even powerful in that moment you show yourself to be weak.
Number 2: Speak Up!
The second thing you should not do around a Narcissist is support their lies. They are constantly lying, so it should be easy to catch them in a lie or two. But you should challenge them. Never stand by quietly or even support what they say. If you ever have doubts about a past event, don’t just agree with the Narcissist that it happened as they say.
Let it be known that you either do not remember or, if you are sure of what happened, don’t be afraid to disagree with what they are saying. Narcissists hate opposition of any kind. But it is best to speak up or challenge them in what they say.
No matter how much they try to downplay their lies, act like it is all a big joke, or nudge you to play along, don’t. Otherwise, their lies will get bigger, and you will be viewed as an accomplice.
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Number 3: Don’t Make Excuses
Narcissists already do not take accountability for their actions. So, one of the worst things you can do is start making excuses for them as well. Let them own up and deal with the consequences. Narcissists are very strategic with everything they do and say. If you are making excuses, you are in denial of how manipulative and abusive the Narcissist really is.
I know there is the issue of cognitive dissonance, but it is important to not deny that you are being abused. So don’t accept the Narcissist’s lame excuses for them doing what they do and do not get into the habit of making excuses for them either. This will only make the Narcissist more hardened and brazen in their wickedness.
Number 4: Helping the Narcissist Always Goes Wrong
The fourth thing you should not do is try to change a Narcissist. This is something the Narcissist would play up on for your demise. They would gladly put this burden onto you and make you feel as if you can help them. Or they need you to make them happy or show them the way. But it is not your responsibility, and the Narcissist will just take advantage of you in the process.
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Number 5: Tell the Narcissist Nothing
The fifth thing you should not do around a Narcissist is talk your business. Any sensitive information should be kept from a Narcissist. They are not people you can trust or confide in. They are also not people who want the best for you. So, keep your secrets, your dreams, your plans, and your desires away from their listening ears.
Number 6: Don’t use force
The last thing you should not do around a Narcissist is respond aggressively. Narcissists love to provoke people. They always strive to get a reaction. Any reaction you give the Narcissist will not be in your best interest. But more so, if you respond aggressively, it allows the Narcissist to play the victim and frame you in a negative light.
Whenever you are around a Narcissist, it is best to remain calm and collected. It is also best not to have any emotional attachments, as the Narcissist cannot successfully manipulate you or provoke you if you simply do not care. Reacting to a Narcissist just gives them ammunition to use against you, so you need to learn to control your emotions whenever you are around narcissists.
Final Thoughts
But to conclude, learning to deal with Narcissists is essential, as they are everywhere. Thankfully, you do not need to be afraid of them. Just ensure that you always trust your gut and remove any emotion when dealing with them. Narcissists cannot handle people who are disinterested or emotionally disconnected from them. They are likely to withdraw themselves from such people.
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